Adoption Misconceptions

You have to have a lot of money to adopt.  X WRONG!
The Truth: You don’t need to own your own home, be wealthy, have children already, or be a stay-at-home parent to adopt. Adoptions from foster care are free and any costs associated with them are often reimbursable. There are many different types of post-adoption resources to help support and sustain adoptions from the foster care system.

You hafamily looking onve to be young to adopt a child.  X WRONG!
The Truth: No, you do not have to own your own home. You do have to pass a Home Study to ensure that your home is adequate and safe.

You can only adopt a child that is the same race or ethnicity as you.  X WRONG!
The Truth: Federal law prohibits the delay or denial of an adoptive placement based on the race or ethnicity of a child foster care and the prospective parent(s) who are seeking to adopt them. The only exception to this law is the adoption of Native American children where special considerations apply.

You cannot adopt foster children.  X WRONG!
The Truth:
Slightly more than half of all children who enter foster care return to their birth families, however there are still thousands of children who cannot return home. A majority of foster children are adopted by their foster parents due to the bond that has been built over time in out-of-home care.

All children in foster care have some type of special need and require special education.  X WRONG!
The Truth: The term “special needs” simply refers to children who qualify for adoption assistance due to specific factors or conditions such as:
• Being an older child
• Having a particular racial or ethnic backgroundkids rolling around on floor
• Being part of a sibling group needing to be placed together as one unit
• Medical conditions
• Physical, mental, or emotional handicaps

Many children in foster care are regular children who unfortunately had to be removed from their families due to abuse or neglect. A child with special needs should not be confused with a child who requires special education. Following broad federal guidelines, each State defines its own parameters for which factors or conditions would qualify a child as having special needs.

You cannot adopt if you are in the military.  X WRONG!
The Truth: Military families stationed overseas and within the U.S. are indeed eligible to adopt children from the U.S. foster care system.

You have to be young to adopt a child.  X WRONG!
The Truth: Experienced parents and empty-nesters are encouraged to adopt. In most instances, you’re eligible to adopt regardless of age, income, marital status, disability, or sexual orientation.

Adopting foster children that have been removed from their parents is dangerous.  X WRONG!
Truth: Children in foster care are regular children who, through no fault of their own, had to be removed from their families due to abusive or neglectful situations. The rights of the parents have been terminated by the court and all avenues for reunification have been exhausted.

Each child must have a room of their own.  X WRONG!
The Truth: Each child needs a bed of their own, not a room of their own. Also, children of the opposite sex may share a room if they are under an age specified by the State (usually around 6 years old).

AdoptionSpot_SONNYJOSHUA_0841If the children are young, sibling relationships are not important.  X WRONG!
The Truth: Recent studies show that sibling relationships are some of the strongest relationship bonds in existence. For that reason, Kids Central makes it a policy to place siblings together. It is almost always the best thing for them after being separated from their birth parents and helps provide continuity and protects them from suffering additional loss.

A birth parent or relative can take an adopted child back.  X WRONG!
The Truth: Adoptions of children from foster care are legally binding agreements that do not occur until the rights of all parents have been legally terminated by a court of law. It’s very rare that an adoption is challenged in court by a child’s birth relative. More than 98 percent of legally completed adoptions remain intact.
Having continued contact with the child(ren)’s birth family will vary depending on the specifics of the case and the placement being considered for the child.

Only married couples and stay-at-home parents can adopt children. 

The Truth: In most instances, a person’s marital status, age, income, or sexual orientation do not automatically disqualify them from eligibility to adopt. You don’t need to own your own home, have children already, be young, wealthy, or a stay-at-home parent.

You can’t adopt a neighbor’s child or one you know personally or professionally.  X WRONG!
The Truth: When a child is removed from their home by a court order and is placed into foster care becomes available for adoption, the birth parents’ rights have been legally terminated. A this time the case worker will often explore connections the child already has with other adults in their life as possible placements for adoption or foster care. There are Family Finding services that are designed to make an extensive search for distant relatives and family members who may be willing to care for the child.blended family 3

You have to be perfect to adopt a child from foster care.  X WRONG!
The Truth: You don’t have to be perfect to be a perfect parent. There are thousands of children in foster care who would be happy to be part of your family.